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A eulogy can be one of the most difficult things to write simply because of all the memories of the deceased that will be brought up. Eulogies are meant to remember the deceased and bring back fond memories, a summary of their life, things they enjoyed, etc. Eulogies should focus on the good things the deceased did in life such as achievements, what their goals and dreams were, and how they impacted their family and friends. If you don’t know where to start just start from the beginning.

A couple ideas of eulogy examples would be to summarize their life from birth to death. For example: Where were they born? Parents? Siblings? Jobs? Spouses? Children? What did they want to do in life? What did they enjoy doing? Did they have any favorite songs, poems, movies? A great way to start would be to gather some friends and families and start writing down memories that they remember about the deceased. Maybe you’ll find out some things you didn’t know yourself.

Try to focus on the strengths and goodness of the deceased. What hardships did they suffer in life and how did they overcome it? Did they help you or another friend or family member through a crisis? You don’t have to write an essay on the person’s life. If you will be the one reading the eulogy then just right a summary or a list of facts that you can quickly look at and go off of from there. The people in mourning want to see your face not you looking at a piece of paper.

Try to keep the mood light. Think of any funny or hilarious moments that happened between you and the deceased or other family members and the deceased. Put a smile on every one’s face so that they can leave with wonderful memories of the loved one. Everyone is vulnerable at a funeral so choosing the right words is essential. Be respectful to everyone and to the deceased in what you say. Read your eulogy to a friend or family member that knew the deceased to see if they approve of what is being said or if they have anything to add.

A eulogy doesn’t have to be a painful rememberance of a loved one. Instead it is a wonderful journey through the loved one’s life and accomplishments. It is a way for everyone to have a fond memory once the funeral has ended.